Mom or Mother Part ONE

So recently I was blessed to share with a friend of mine something that I realized about myself. I am sharing this on my blog as I hope it is a blessing to you and that it might encourage you.

Here was my epiphany yep that's what I am going to call it because it really caught me by surprise but in a good way. Like I said I was recently talking to a friend and I expressed to her how I as a Mom have had to grow into becoming a Mother. You see there is a difference between the two in my mind. A woman is a mom when she has a child no matter any circumstance that may come that woman will always be a mom. My definition of Mother: a woman who cares for her children's physical, emotional, education and most importantly spiritual needs. See you can be a Mom who tries her best to take care of the physical: clothes, a clean bed/room, giving baths, making meals, giving snacks. All of these things are of great importance but they are also necessities. You can do all these basic things and still be completely disconnected from your child's emotion and spiritual side. There is alot to becoming the Mother to that child that God has blessed you with. Becoming a Mother to a child to some people, I believe, can be a very natural thing but for others I believe some have to grow into.

Now saying all that I would like to share my personal story of being a mom and now becoming a mother to my children. My story starts a little over 4 1/2 years ago when I had my daughter Faith. She was born in late July she was beautiful and healthy I couldn't ask for more! I specifically remember coming home from the hospital and being frazzled about the condition of my home and it's cleanliness or I must say lack thereof! Now that I look back it really was seriously just fine! I was so busy keeping up with my home I can honestly tell you that Faith spent a majority of her first year in a swing, bouncer, or car seat and then it shifted to jumperoos and walkers. I was so busy keeping up with my home I am sure there were days the only time I took the time to hold her was when I would put her down to bed. Even then so exhausted from all the work and busyness I had subjected my self too I was emotionally disconnected from really being her Mother.

So now you are saying to your self oh my goodness Chelsie really...I thought Chelsie had it more together than this her kids talk nice, they may be rowdy at times, but for the most part she has ok kids?...My kids have always grown up hearing I love you and getting hugs and kisses goodnight! They always will but how much of those I love you's were just words. How much of my being a Mother was really shown thru my actions. Sadly to say very little, if none. I can tell you this in all honest and openly because I know it needs to be said. I have never heard anyone I know say I had to grow into becoming the Mother my children needed! I could honestly talk to you forever about this subject because it has so become apparent to me that others probably struggle with this and don't even realize it. You as a mother might have different things that hold you back from investing in the time for your child's character, education, and spiritual development. Things that might hold you back just so you might see what it could be: television, a hobby that takes a lot of your time, going to the gym, spending time with other adults alot instead of your children, housework, maybe your job! You fill in the blank what takes you away from your children the most. Now ask yourself is that going to matter in twelve to eighteen years??? If it's not trust me it's not worth the sacrifice you are making. (Never be driven by money, God will provide) Your sacrifices you make should be for your God, husband and children.

TIME ,TIME, and more TIME is what our children need: our undivided attention one on one!  Those things will get done the laundry, the dishes, the unfinished quilt, the unfinished scrapbook, the unmade bed, you name it it will get taken care of. Wake up before your kids and stay up for a bit and take that needed time for yourself and get the things accomplished that NEED to be done! If you need more time in your day wake up for more time :) The sunrise is such a blessing to those who see it!

I just felt so burdened to share this I hope it blesses you and I think I will have a part two on this post because I would like to expound more on things that have come to light to me concerning Becoming a Mother.